Happiness for You? Happiness for Who?

Rewarding Relationships

March 22, 2012

Dear Romantics,

We all want HAPPINESS in our lives.  We do not want to be hurt in relationships and we want to know we are on the right path to finding our Special Someone!  Doing The Rules will ensure that you have boundaries in place that prevent you from ever getting tragically hurt by anyone that you are interested in or even already involved with.

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We are lucky to have friends and family that love us and want the best for us.  And as we are blessed to have such wonderful people looking out for our best interest, we still must keep in mind that friends and loved ones may encourage us to unintentionally engage in unrewarding relationship behaviours on the premise that "it's good for you" or "I just want you to be happy!"  For example, let's say you and your friends are out and a guy approaches you and your group.  You have now simply and literally just met a guy, nothing else - but - your friends are already telling you, "He's a great guy."  According to your friends and family, "He's perfect for you!!!" and "Oh my gosh!  You HAVE to call him!  Do it now!" or "Text him! Come on, don't be so rude to him.  It's just a text!  Stop being so ridiculous."

First of all, you are not being ridiculous, you are just doing the right thing by not chasing "the great guy" down and you're correctly following The Rules, which teaches us that women never pursue men.  NEVER.  Unless this man was specifically talking to YOU, approaching YOU and making eye contact with YOU, how can you and your friends be SO SURE that he's into you?  And even more so, that "he's so great?"  It's very easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of excitement when there's fresh man meat standing in front of you and your friends.  So while your friends and loved ones are happy and excited for you that an actual male came and spoke with wonderful you, even if he is "the greatest guy ever!" that does not give you a license to drive 150 miles per hour on the Relationship Highway, nor do you ever want to be perceived as eager or desperate. 

Friends and family are amazing support systems and genuinely love us and care for us, however they may not be schooled in The Rules and they may want to see you with someone and their points of view may not align with what you\'re trying to achieve and that goal is being a "CUAO!" - "A Creature Unlike Any Other," who is different and not so available to men, especially at the first meet.

You know better Rules Girls!  You know to assess the situation.  You know that just because people think "he's great!" that a) He may not be "Great"; b) He may not be "Great" for YOU; c) He may be "Great" for your friends and that's why they're pushing you so hard to pursue him (call him, text him, run after him, ask him to dance) and that d) IF he is indeed "Mr. Great," and he's into you, TRUST ME, he'll let it be known by either talking to you, asking you to dance, asking you for your name, number, email, twitter handle, facebook friendship etc... You get the idea.  You will know!  So don't be a desperate damsel and chase down ANY guy that comes your way or you'll be saying BUH-BYE to something that never even started!
 

HAPPINESS BEGINS WITH YOU! 

You are gorgeous. 
You are special.
You are worth having love from an amazing man!

 XOXO,

MAYA